Monday, 12 September 2016

What is Love? What is Compatibility?

What does it mean to love someone? How do you know if you love someone?

Does it even matter? If you feel safe in their company. If your heart skips a beat each time your phone goes "new text!"

How does new love and old love coexist?

I'm in a fairly long term relationship. There are a few things that aren't quite what I'd wish them to be. There has been fairly little consistent improvement over the years. Each time we talk about it things will get better. For a while. Then back to same old, same old.

Recently, I got involved with a new person. And he is really, really good at this thing. In a way that really highlights how much energy I put into "dealing" (read ignore and hope it will get better and periodically going "this needs to change or I'm out!") with the issue. It's just not an issue at all.

New person has other things where we don't quite mesh, but since everything is new and shiny I don't know how much of an issue those would be in the long run.

Do I love my current long term partner? Yes. I definitely do.
Are we compatible? I don't know, but the doubts are there. And they're consistent.

Do I love new person? I don't know. I definitely like him. A lot.
Are we compatible? Too soon to tell. 

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